*DAILY DEW 19/MAY/2022* *RELATIONSHIPS & CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER* (IV) _Key Bible Text:_ *"But the Spirit produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, humility, and self-control. There is no law against such things as these."* (Galatians 5:22-23 (GNB)) _Bible Insight:_ We continue with SOME RED FLAGS to consider when considering a serious relationship or choice of a life partner:- 3. Is s/he a patient partner? Lack of patience is a red flag. (Too much patience may be a red flag too. 😂 ) However, "too much patience" is rarely the problem. And truly, it is not too much patience but either laziness or procrastination or complacency or lack of confidence or indifference or even no future ambition! On the issue of lack of patience, partners who lack this fruit of the spirit become easily irritated, provoked, and hasty in decisions and actions. By your divine nature, if you are born again, you have no excuse to be impatient! 4. Sit at Home, House Wife vs Over Ambitious Wife/Husband:- The need to know what you want as a wife or husband is one thing! Properly discussing and deciding on it especially before marriage is another thing! For some being a sit at home, house wife is satisfying. For others, it is frustrating. Likewise, for some men, they can't understand why a woman will just stay at home and wait for the man to bring in all the money! The bottom line is, never hide or shy away from what you expect in this regard before marriage. Discuss and deliberate intelligently and futuristically. Some over ambitious career driven Couples, who do not know when to draw the line, will have their children and marriage at risk. You can make all the money (which of course, will never be enough), and yet lose your marriage and children-- the same people to actually enjoy the acquired wealth with! It pays to walk circumspectly and be flexible as occasion and wisdom demands. _MEDITATION:_ *“Before you marry a person, you should first make them use a computer with slow Internet to see who they really are.”* – Will Ferrell *“Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.”* – Oscar Wilde *#David_Joshua_Egbochuo_Esq* *#Thursday_wisdomforliving* *#Becoming_More_Like_Jesus* *#Year_of_Big_Favours* *#Daily_Dew_Devotional* *#Grace_For_Accomplishments* *#Hello_May* ❤ Links To Visit: *FB Pages* https://www.facebook.com/DavidJoshuaEgbochuo/ https://www.facebook.com/thedavidgen/ https://www.facebook.com/THEREVIVALCORPS/ *Telegram Group:* https://t.me/joinchat/NzXQlVc9Hx7LfaRSnh9fHg *WhatsApp Group:* http://bit.ly/The_David_Generation Feel Free to Share with Friends. God bless you...

*DAILY DEW 18/MAY/2022* *RELATIONSHIPS & CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER* (III) _Key Bible Text:_ *"Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools."* (Ecclesiastes 7:9 (KJV)) _Bible Insight:_ SOME RED FLAGS to consider when considering a serious relationship or choice of a life partner, are as follows:- 1. How does s/he treat others, especially those who are below them financially and otherwise? Don't move on when you notice that your proposed partner is always disrespectful, vile or violent/unnecessarily aggressive towards others except you! Don't ever think that such treatment will not be unleashed at you some day! The way s/he generally treats others and conducts himself or herself is the way s/he truly is! All the exclusive niceness or goodness s/he displays towards you are temporary make-believe acts that will wear off soo! Beware! 2. How does s/he manage anger? Anger management is a vital factor to consider when choosing a life partner. Anyone who can't control their anger and are unwilling to do so, are future marriage problems in disguise! When you have a potential partner who is proud to say "little things get me angry" or "I am hot tempered and I can damage things when I am angry oh but I can be very nice", just know that you are being given a hint of what to expect if you advance to marriage. Be rest assured that there will be problems because marriage is haven of offence and forgiveness or it's nothing! So when he or she is offended, you have already been told to expect anger outburst, damages and hurts, and temporary madness. Truth is, such is not necessary. Anger or being angry is not a license or justification for losing control and going berserk! A sister or brother who cannot learn to control or manage anger is a spiritual baby (and prayer point) and needs to be put in order first as a single person so as not to extend such liability to a life partner! _MEDITATION:_ *"Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. (Ephesians 4: 31-32 (KJV))!"* *#David_Joshua_Egbochuo_Esq* *#Wednesday_wisdomforliving* *#Becoming_More_Like_Jesus* *#Year_of_Big_Favours* *#Daily_Dew_Devotional* *#Grace_For_Accomplishments* *#Hello_May* ❤ Links To Visit: *FB Pages* https://www.facebook.com/DavidJoshuaEgbochuo/ https://www.facebook.com/thedavidgen/ https://www.facebook.com/THEREVIVALCORPS/ *Telegram Group:* https://t.me/joinchat/NzXQlVc9Hx7LfaRSnh9fHg *WhatsApp Group:* http://bit.ly/The_David_Generation Feel Free to Share with Friends. God bless you...

*DAILY DEW 17/MAY/2022* *RELATIONSHIPS & CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER* (II) _Key Bible Text:_ *"Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."* (Hebrews 13: 4 (KJV)) _Bible Insight:_ Let's continue from our yesterday's reflections. 4. Saying "I love you" is not enough. If you have prayed and/or convinced that a sister or brother is the one, proper communication is key! Haven said that, saying "I love you" may not only deficient but can be misleading too. Follow up with appropriate and of course, godly actions. Needless to re echo the cliche that "Love is not sex" (and sex is not love) But on the contrary God is love! True love emulates and promotes godliness. 5. Go beyond engaging a sister. Take steps to seek counselling, meet parents, and read relevant relationship and marriage books. Consistently take positive and reassuring steps. Don't wait for the best time, instead have a faith based plan and consistently strive to follow through! 6. Don't double date. Women have perceiving spirit. Dont keep mixing with other ladies closely and carelessly. This stage of courtship or serious relationship is not the time to be every lady's man. Don't do things that would or may strike jealousy in the heart of your partner, either as the man or woman! 7. Don't be manipulative. Don't be fond of always using, "Let's see how it goes!" to issues that calls for decisive decisions. If you are not interested, say so and mean so. If you are, say so and mean so. When you are wrong, don't find it too hard to apologize. It is better to do so, than blaming the other party is the wrong one. Don't make discordant sounds and expect your partner to understand what music you are playing! _MEDITATION:_ *"Seek more of purpose in the place of purpose, your spouse will locate you. Settle your marriage on your knees. Build character and be prayerful (2Peter 1:1- 5, 6)!"* *#David_Joshua_Egbochuo_Esq* *#Tuesday_wisdomforliving* *#Becoming_More_Like_Jesus* *#Year_of_Big_Favours* *#Daily_Dew_Devotional* *#Grace_For_Accomplishments* *#Hello_May* ❤ Links To Visit: *FB Pages* https://www.facebook.com/DavidJoshuaEgbochuo/ https://www.facebook.com/thedavidgen/ https://www.facebook.com/THEREVIVALCORPS/ *Telegram Group:* https://t.me/joinchat/NzXQlVc9Hx7LfaRSnh9fHg *WhatsApp Group:* http://bit.ly/The_David_Generation Feel Free to Share with Friends. God bless you...

*DAILY DEW 16/MAY/2022* *RELATIONSHIPS & CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER* (I) _Key Bible Text:_ *"Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it. Love makes up for practically anything."* (1 Peter 4:8 (Message)) _Bible Insight:_ Let's take a quick look at certain concerns or areas that can affect positively or otherwise the turn out of a relationship, that ought to lead to marriage. 1. Not communicating seriously your intentions: This borders on defining your relationships. If as a young man, you intend to marry a lady, then don't casually suggest it. Seriously present your intentions. Be clear, direct and bold. Purposeful ladies do not enjoyed being dated/courted without their knowledge or express consent! As a young lady, do not be satisfied with suggestive conducts of a young man. Expect him to be clear about his intentions. If need be, find a way to poke his intentions. Ask questions: for instance, "where do you see this relationship/friendship leading to?" "What exactly do you hope to achieve from our friendship?" Or take a more indirect route like, "Do you think it is okay for a guy to be interested in marrying a lady and not clearly say it but they carry out suggestive conducts around the lady?" Etc 2. Consistently keep in touch: Do you limit your care and attention on the lady you expect to take you seriously to only Sundays or whenever you meet? It is not a sign of seriousness if you do so. A lady with such level of interest from a brother, is safe to assume it is a common likeness, that is not going anywhere serious. When you find a lady you have prayerfully decided to marry, whether before or after communicating your intention, practice consistent keeping in touch. When you have agreed to court a brother or have a vested interest in a brother who is also coming close, reciprocate the need to keep in touch regularly. It is not a one way street! 3. Double check before you conclude: As a young man, after communicating your intentions, sometimes a lady may be unsure about your seriousness, perhaps out of their past or other people's experiences. Before you conclude that the young lady is not taking your proposal or interest seriously, find away to pass the message one more time. Passage of time, could have made such a lady rethink her decision. She may even be praying that you ask her again! Give them the benefit of the doubt and make a final notice, before moving on. _MEDITATION:_ *"You can never have too much understanding or knowledge about relationships, whether married or single. So be a lifelong student of relationships & marriage!"* *#David_Joshua_Egbochuo_Esq* *#Monday_wisdomforliving* *#Becoming_More_Like_Jesus* *#Year_of_Big_Favours* *#Daily_Dew_Devotional* *#Grace_For_Accomplishments* *#Hello_May* ❤ Links To Visit: *FB Pages* https://www.facebook.com/DavidJoshuaEgbochuo/ https://www.facebook.com/thedavidgen/ https://www.facebook.com/THEREVIVALCORPS/ *Telegram Group:* https://t.me/joinchat/NzXQlVc9Hx7LfaRSnh9fHg *WhatsApp Group:* http://bit.ly/The_David_Generation Feel Free to Share with Friends. God bless you...

*DAILY DEW 15/MAY/2022* *Rightly Diving The Word of Truth* _Key Bible Text:_ *"Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.* (2 Tim 2:15 (KJV)) _Bible Insight:_ Context in bible study means a word can mean different things in different books, chapters, and verses of the bible. This means you can't claim to understand the meaning of a word in Genesis based on how it was used in 1 John. E.g. righteousness doesn't always refer to the gift we have by faith, it can also refer to righteous acts. Hence, the verse 'the righteous are as bold as a lion' (Proverbs 28:1) is not a faith confession based on justification by faith. Many of us have used it that way but the context deals with oppression, justice, and upright living. So, the boldness is against the law of the land which makes the wicked flee even when nobody is pursuing him. If you miss the message here, and you lead a questionable lifestyle, you'll discover that you won't be bold as a lion when you're arrested for your evil ways. Does that mean righteousness by faith doesn't make us bold? Of course it does! But in a different context entirely, not this one. _MEDITATION:_ *"Whenever we miss context, a major lesson is missed. You may have to find out the original context of every popular verse you grew up hearing. You might be shocked what you'll find.!"* *#Adebowale_Ibukun_Tosin * *#Sunday_wisdomforliving* *#Becoming_More_Like_Jesus* *#Year_of_Big_Favours* *#Daily_Dew_Devotional* *#Guest_Message* *#Grace_For_Accomplishments* *#Hello_May* ❤ Links To Visit: *FB Pages* https://www.facebook.com/DavidJoshuaEgbochuo/ https://www.facebook.com/thedavidgen/ https://www.facebook.com/THEREVIVALCORPS/ *Telegram Group:* https://t.me/joinchat/NzXQlVc9Hx7LfaRSnh9fHg *WhatsApp Group:* http://bit.ly/The_David_Generation Feel Free to Share with Friends. God bless you...