*DAILY DEW 21/MAY/2022* *RELATIONSHIPS & CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER* (VI) _Key Bible Text:_ *"Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man."* Colossians 4:6 (KJV)) _Bible Insight:_ SOME RED FLAGS to consider when considering a serious relationship or choice of a life partner:- 8. Loud-mouthed, not sensitive, & not considerate towards others? How do you talk to others? What attitude do you throw around? Are you sensitive about the feelings of others, especially those you don't like or take interest in or consider as a close friend? Being considerate only towards those you care about is not good enough. Are you the kind of partner or potential partner that is loquacious, insensitive and non accommodating? 9. The Purpose Factor. What do you want from life? What direction are you going in life? Do you know or have you discovered your God-given purpose? To be more convinced about your purpose, invest in books and prayers, and in the right circle of friends while keeping busy until you are certain of what direction God wants for you. Being idle or staying inactive or indecisive until you find your purpose may not help in finding your purpose. While praying and searching for your God given purpose, keep busy purposefully. 10. Unforgiveness & lies. Are you a habitual liar? Do you think lying is being smart? Are you that kind of partner? Do you wallow in forgiveness?! Are you quick to pick offense and when you do, do you take a longer time before you bring yourself to the point of forgiveness? What's your cool down or cool off rate after you have been offended and angered? How long do you stay before you begin to try to let go of anger, 24 or 48 hours or more? As a (potential) partner to a brother or sister out there, when you don't have a handle on these few mentioned factors and previous ones, you will make a poor choice of a partner. While looking for a good or right partner, work deliberately on being a great partner yourself! _MEDITATION:_ *“What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.”* – Leo Tolstoy *#David_Joshua_Egbochuo_Esq* *#Saturday_wisdomforliving* *#Becoming_More_Like_Jesus* *#Year_of_Big_Favours* *#Daily_Dew_Devotional* *#Grace_For_Accomplishments* *#Hello_May* ❤ Links To Visit: *FB Pages* https://www.facebook.com/DavidJoshuaEgbochuo/ https://www.facebook.com/thedavidgen/ https://www.facebook.com/THEREVIVALCORPS/ *Telegram Group:* https://t.me/joinchat/NzXQlVc9Hx7LfaRSnh9fHg *WhatsApp Group:* http://bit.ly/The_David_Generation Feel Free to Share with Friends. God bless you...

*DAILY DEW 20/MAY/2022* *RELATIONSHIPS & CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER* (V) _Key Bible Text:_ *"Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God."* (Ephesians 5:21 (KJV)) _Bible Insight:_ SOME RED FLAGS to consider when considering a serious relationship or choice of a life partner:- 5. Why can't you say "sorry!"? Ego, pride, self righteousness, etc are some of the major reasons people can't say sorry! People who can't apologize are always thinking they have to be pleased. You must learn to apologize to build a happy home. Inability to say sorry is not a virtue. Proving stubborn and self righteous costs devil his place and he was thrown down to earth! If he had quickly pleaded with God and repented, perhaps there will be no devil today! Don't be like the devil! 6. Avoid generalizing negatively. We are easily tempted and easily fall into negative generalizations. "Ibos love money!"? Why not "Ibos are hard working"? "Yorubas love owambe", why not "Yorubas love family and friends gatherings"? "Hausas are backward and heartless" Why not "Hausa's are strategic and futuristic"? All men are not the same! All women are not the same! Not all children of these days lack respect! Accepting Stereotypes and generalizations is wrong! A bad fruit does not condemn all other fruits from the same tree! Take time to study individuals and don't fall for lazy generalizations! 7. Does your proposed partner have a spiritual head over him/her? Does s/he listen to someone? Is s/he a lone ranger? Self made conscious and answer to no one? Partners who can't submit to any authority or mentor figure is a real challenge because by the nature of life, no one is ordained to be spiritually headless! Find out who he or she regards. In fact, take it a step further, discuss in advance about one or more neutral and mature persons to be like your internal appeal court, where you take hard, prolonged or sensitive issues to, for more guided resolution. _MEDITATION:_ *“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ come together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”* – Dave Meur *#David_Joshua_Egbochuo_Esq* *#Friday_wisdomforliving* *#Becoming_More_Like_Jesus* *#Year_of_Big_Favours* *#Daily_Dew_Devotional* *#Grace_For_Accomplishments* *#Hello_May* ❤ Links To Visit: *FB Pages* https://www.facebook.com/DavidJoshuaEgbochuo/ https://www.facebook.com/thedavidgen/ https://www.facebook.com/THEREVIVALCORPS/ *Telegram Group:* https://t.me/joinchat/NzXQlVc9Hx7LfaRSnh9fHg *WhatsApp Group:* http://bit.ly/The_David_Generation Feel Free to Share with Friends. God bless you...

*DAILY DEW 19/MAY/2022* *RELATIONSHIPS & CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER* (IV) _Key Bible Text:_ *"But the Spirit produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, humility, and self-control. There is no law against such things as these."* (Galatians 5:22-23 (GNB)) _Bible Insight:_ We continue with SOME RED FLAGS to consider when considering a serious relationship or choice of a life partner:- 3. Is s/he a patient partner? Lack of patience is a red flag. (Too much patience may be a red flag too. 😂 ) However, "too much patience" is rarely the problem. And truly, it is not too much patience but either laziness or procrastination or complacency or lack of confidence or indifference or even no future ambition! On the issue of lack of patience, partners who lack this fruit of the spirit become easily irritated, provoked, and hasty in decisions and actions. By your divine nature, if you are born again, you have no excuse to be impatient! 4. Sit at Home, House Wife vs Over Ambitious Wife/Husband:- The need to know what you want as a wife or husband is one thing! Properly discussing and deciding on it especially before marriage is another thing! For some being a sit at home, house wife is satisfying. For others, it is frustrating. Likewise, for some men, they can't understand why a woman will just stay at home and wait for the man to bring in all the money! The bottom line is, never hide or shy away from what you expect in this regard before marriage. Discuss and deliberate intelligently and futuristically. Some over ambitious career driven Couples, who do not know when to draw the line, will have their children and marriage at risk. You can make all the money (which of course, will never be enough), and yet lose your marriage and children-- the same people to actually enjoy the acquired wealth with! It pays to walk circumspectly and be flexible as occasion and wisdom demands. _MEDITATION:_ *“Before you marry a person, you should first make them use a computer with slow Internet to see who they really are.”* – Will Ferrell *“Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.”* – Oscar Wilde *#David_Joshua_Egbochuo_Esq* *#Thursday_wisdomforliving* *#Becoming_More_Like_Jesus* *#Year_of_Big_Favours* *#Daily_Dew_Devotional* *#Grace_For_Accomplishments* *#Hello_May* ❤ Links To Visit: *FB Pages* https://www.facebook.com/DavidJoshuaEgbochuo/ https://www.facebook.com/thedavidgen/ https://www.facebook.com/THEREVIVALCORPS/ *Telegram Group:* https://t.me/joinchat/NzXQlVc9Hx7LfaRSnh9fHg *WhatsApp Group:* http://bit.ly/The_David_Generation Feel Free to Share with Friends. God bless you...

*DAILY DEW 18/MAY/2022* *RELATIONSHIPS & CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER* (III) _Key Bible Text:_ *"Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools."* (Ecclesiastes 7:9 (KJV)) _Bible Insight:_ SOME RED FLAGS to consider when considering a serious relationship or choice of a life partner, are as follows:- 1. How does s/he treat others, especially those who are below them financially and otherwise? Don't move on when you notice that your proposed partner is always disrespectful, vile or violent/unnecessarily aggressive towards others except you! Don't ever think that such treatment will not be unleashed at you some day! The way s/he generally treats others and conducts himself or herself is the way s/he truly is! All the exclusive niceness or goodness s/he displays towards you are temporary make-believe acts that will wear off soo! Beware! 2. How does s/he manage anger? Anger management is a vital factor to consider when choosing a life partner. Anyone who can't control their anger and are unwilling to do so, are future marriage problems in disguise! When you have a potential partner who is proud to say "little things get me angry" or "I am hot tempered and I can damage things when I am angry oh but I can be very nice", just know that you are being given a hint of what to expect if you advance to marriage. Be rest assured that there will be problems because marriage is haven of offence and forgiveness or it's nothing! So when he or she is offended, you have already been told to expect anger outburst, damages and hurts, and temporary madness. Truth is, such is not necessary. Anger or being angry is not a license or justification for losing control and going berserk! A sister or brother who cannot learn to control or manage anger is a spiritual baby (and prayer point) and needs to be put in order first as a single person so as not to extend such liability to a life partner! _MEDITATION:_ *"Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. (Ephesians 4: 31-32 (KJV))!"* *#David_Joshua_Egbochuo_Esq* *#Wednesday_wisdomforliving* *#Becoming_More_Like_Jesus* *#Year_of_Big_Favours* *#Daily_Dew_Devotional* *#Grace_For_Accomplishments* *#Hello_May* ❤ Links To Visit: *FB Pages* https://www.facebook.com/DavidJoshuaEgbochuo/ https://www.facebook.com/thedavidgen/ https://www.facebook.com/THEREVIVALCORPS/ *Telegram Group:* https://t.me/joinchat/NzXQlVc9Hx7LfaRSnh9fHg *WhatsApp Group:* http://bit.ly/The_David_Generation Feel Free to Share with Friends. God bless you...

*DAILY DEW 17/MAY/2022* *RELATIONSHIPS & CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER* (II) _Key Bible Text:_ *"Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."* (Hebrews 13: 4 (KJV)) _Bible Insight:_ Let's continue from our yesterday's reflections. 4. Saying "I love you" is not enough. If you have prayed and/or convinced that a sister or brother is the one, proper communication is key! Haven said that, saying "I love you" may not only deficient but can be misleading too. Follow up with appropriate and of course, godly actions. Needless to re echo the cliche that "Love is not sex" (and sex is not love) But on the contrary God is love! True love emulates and promotes godliness. 5. Go beyond engaging a sister. Take steps to seek counselling, meet parents, and read relevant relationship and marriage books. Consistently take positive and reassuring steps. Don't wait for the best time, instead have a faith based plan and consistently strive to follow through! 6. Don't double date. Women have perceiving spirit. Dont keep mixing with other ladies closely and carelessly. This stage of courtship or serious relationship is not the time to be every lady's man. Don't do things that would or may strike jealousy in the heart of your partner, either as the man or woman! 7. Don't be manipulative. Don't be fond of always using, "Let's see how it goes!" to issues that calls for decisive decisions. If you are not interested, say so and mean so. If you are, say so and mean so. When you are wrong, don't find it too hard to apologize. It is better to do so, than blaming the other party is the wrong one. Don't make discordant sounds and expect your partner to understand what music you are playing! _MEDITATION:_ *"Seek more of purpose in the place of purpose, your spouse will locate you. Settle your marriage on your knees. Build character and be prayerful (2Peter 1:1- 5, 6)!"* *#David_Joshua_Egbochuo_Esq* *#Tuesday_wisdomforliving* *#Becoming_More_Like_Jesus* *#Year_of_Big_Favours* *#Daily_Dew_Devotional* *#Grace_For_Accomplishments* *#Hello_May* ❤ Links To Visit: *FB Pages* https://www.facebook.com/DavidJoshuaEgbochuo/ https://www.facebook.com/thedavidgen/ https://www.facebook.com/THEREVIVALCORPS/ *Telegram Group:* https://t.me/joinchat/NzXQlVc9Hx7LfaRSnh9fHg *WhatsApp Group:* http://bit.ly/The_David_Generation Feel Free to Share with Friends. God bless you...