HIGHLIGHT FOR A LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP. Great relationships are as a result of quiet and intentional habits. A couple that is not deliberate about their relationship success will see it disintegrate. Every relationship can experience a turn around if the partners are willing to make adjustments. However, I will be highlighting the pressure points in a relationship; 1. COMMUNICATION DIFFERENCES You should understand that both of you are different individual trying to become one, hence, you should be able to understand each other's communication skills. There are some key points a lady should know about her partner as well as the man. MEETING NEEDS You shouldn't be driven to love someone based on his or her financial buoyancy, popularity, status or culture. Although those things are important but it shouldn't be made a priority. Hence, a partner is meant to be a help mate and not a problem solver. BEING POSITIVE Relationships comes with ups and downs. Don't expect to be happy all the time. Be open to disappointments, and use them as strategies to know your partner better. GRATITUDE Research shows that gratitude helps to reduce pain and hate as you tend to focus only on the positive aspects of your Partner. Always be grateful and appreciative about the qualities of your partner. FIXED MINDSET In every true and non-intrusive relationship, you should have it mind that you have just one goal which is marriage. Hence, your plans should be related to that. GROWTH MINDSET Accept that arguments will happen and treat it with maturity and Try to resolve with respect. Note that the strongest predictor of argument is contempt. Hence, you should try and treat every issue in the most applicable manner and not to prolong arguments. BE FLEXIBLE Let your relationship grow and adapt as you both change. In summary, be aware of what is happening in your relationship, stay curious but respectful be updated about your partner and be a good listener..

Dealing with misunderstanding Relating with individuals is one of the biggest problem in humanity because there will always be misunderstanding in life which is inevitable. Misunderstanding is something that one can never avoid no matter how perfect you think you are or how good your relationship is, instead we try to ignore conflicts and arguments which later pops up and becomes accumulated grievances My personal experience with misunderstanding has mostly been involved with presumptions I have made. I have found out that when I base my opinion solely on what I am observing today without passing to consider history, or other perspectives, I am prone to get things wrong and that often creates an issue..

RED FLAGS Growing up as ladies,almost everyday of our lives we encounter different men who lustfully approaches us in one way or the other,some may start by telling you how beautiful you are while others may continue staring at you till they finally structure their tricks to get you.most at times,we see it as normal events that happens at a particular stage we are forgetting the fact that over 80% of these men really don't cherish you .we take it as an opportunity that comes but once in a life time and dwindle into it resulting to an aftermath which becomes an unforgettable experience that brings only but pain and sorrow into our lives Furthermore,most of our ladies think that we have an edge over these men and no matter how cunning they may seem ,you can't fall into their prey but the bitter truth is that when men a man desperately wants to get into you for his own selfish reasons ,he's going to do everything he can to achieve that purpose.they take advantage of every action you take and before you know it ,their mission would have been actualized .they may begin with deceitful declarations like; -I really ,really like you a lot. -This is new ,I haven't felt this way before. -Your are my dream girl,you have all the qualties of a perfect girlfriend . -I will never hurt you. Ladies,we should note that there is more to attraction than just what nature does to your brain whenever it sees certain physical traits. A real man who values you will respect you ,he will always find fault in you just to correct you.he know the right things to say at the right time,he will always protect you .on a second thought ,why do you think our parents corrects us more often compared to the sweet words that say. Its had to put in a few words or sentences but these days ,a lot of things are more about what you are not than what you are.nobody is perfect in life ,we should note that he who corrects you, values and respects you and definitely will hurt you at that moment but in the long run we will begin to see the positive side of those things . They say prevention is better than cure, don't be too over excited when we are being praised by an individual ,instead you should pause and have a rethink if that person is doing more harm than good to you. Note : if your relationship is too smooth and easy going...it's definitely a red flag -If your partner never correct you instead he showers you with the sweetest word in the dictionary ...dear it's a red flag -If a guy is being too nice and over caring to you .it's a red flag -If your partner supports you even in your wrong doing .it's red flag. The sweetest part of a relationship is hurting each other and reconciling.a relationship should never be smooth for comfort . we should learn and take things into consideration .always be eager to listen to your mistakes and take corrections than exciting but teasing words that won't add much value into your life's. In summary ,pay attention to that man that corrects you more often, connect on a more intimate level ,avoid relationship pitfalls and in general ,develop a God empowered relationship #icare #touchinglives ©omahofficial..