Understanding your Children... Children are gift from God, how uncomfortable is the couple that doesn’t have a child after many years of marriage. The worst-case scenario is that you’re not a father/mother, nobody will call you father/mother. It is one thing to born a child and another thing to train the child. God has already determined your children’s potentials, it is up to you to help them discover and develop it. You will see it in their temperament, gifts and their interest. Do not treat your children the same way when it comes to character, potential, gift, and interest they are different, you must love them unconditionally, but develop them individually. Start listening to what your children value, who they are, what they like, how they behave when they are alone, what they fear and what the need. According to the bible Provb22vs6 “Train up a child in the way he should go…” ie every child has a different way to go that is different from each other. But in all make sure they are anchored spiritually in God’s word. Do not force them to go the way you wish you’d gone, help them discover their own identity and become their biggest backer. If that means putting your own dreams on hold for a while, do it, you will not regret it. Your children are your future, they are your biggest asset remember that the tree which you grow today produce the fruit you eat tomorrow. Pray for your children, encourage them and ask God to help you understand them. By Chima Godson..

Don't Lower Your Standard Because You Want To Change Your Surname My sister was just going through some photos online. She stopped abruptly when she saw the picture of a beautiful woman, happily married to an old man. She was irked by the ladies caption. "I am blessed, and so excited to have married the best husband on earth". My sis scoffed at it, saying, " how can she be so audacious to call this old man, the best husband on earth"? Without even looking at the photo, I simply asked her, does a husband have to be young to be considered good? I went on, that man might just be the only person that makes her really happy, treats her well, love and care for her genuinely. And makes her feel like the Queen she is. She must have her reasons. You see, some things are not just in black or white. Especially marriage. It is never this way or the high way. This doesn't in anyway mean older men are the best. Far from it... But just because you can't see yourself getting hitched to someone older or younger than you, doesn't mean you should judge anyone who decides to. If you do not appreciate a chubby lady, don't bother getting married to her. You might trample on her self esteem, in your bid to get her to your desired shape. It is a different ball game if she wasn't that way when you married her. You do not admire a short man? Don't "pity" him by wearing his ring. You might end up comparing him with every male specie you come across. Not everyone can start small with you. Some ladies do not see "potentials". Don't make her feel like she's doing you a favour by staying with you. Look for that one that understands your vision. You like men that speak well? Wonderful. We are in this together sis. Look out for him. Don't get married, and start correcting him at every turn. If you can't stand a successful woman, please do well to marry a woman that has her vision aligned with yours. Don't "go with the flow" because you like the "idea" of an independent woman. You like them already prosperous before meeting you? Jesus still have rich children you know. Don't lower your standard because you want to change your surname. You like to be spoilt, taken to expensive dinners, malls or vacations? Own it Sis. IT IS NOT A SIN. It doesn't reduce your annonting or glory. Through prosperity shall His kingdom be shared abroad, the scriptures says. Let him know that. If he can afford it, great. If he can't, you both can work towards it. Don't pretend and tell yourself you want to be "wife material". I mean, "wife materials" do not fake it. It's just who they are. If you love a woman that will tow Sarah's path by calling you "Lord", and serve you food on her back. Great. Do not go about despising, or speaking ill about people that would playfully call their husbands big head, goat, fish or the likes. One man's food is another man's poison If you have a conviction to marry him when his only possession is his standing fan and foam. Don't let anyone deter you. There's no written law on how much you should be earning before settling down. If there is, it was written by someone. And you know, we do not have the same experience. No matter how many books, seminars, tutorials, articles etc you read on marriage. It would never be enough to guide you through it. But, there's a Spirit in man. Strenuousblog.com..

A Call For Rehabilitation Of Building For Destitute And Beggars In Abia The rate of begging in Abia State has inflated so high, such that it’s now a daily profitable business in Abia, Aba precisely. Am not saying we shouldn’t help the less privilege, am not saying we shouldn’t show gratitude to those in need in Abia, even the bible said God loves a cheerful giver. All am saying is the rate of destitute and beggars in Abia, Aba precisely is highly on called for. We have good leaders and God fearing governor who can stand for us and give this beggars a place. It may interest you to know that most road, street, and taxi beggars are not from Abia. They have caused some many havoc in Abia, Aba to be precise. You cannot come down to Keke (Tricycle), taxi without little children dragging your cloth. Demerit These road side, Street, and taxi Beggars have brought a bad name for Abians. They stayed in the roads, have their umbrellas covered both in Sun and Rain. The painful part is that those ones in 'Bata', 'Brass' junction etc. are more of little children. These kids are skilled in Begging, no education, no home training and no parental care when they grow up they become armed robbers, cultist, thwart disturbing and terrorizing the State. Some are being giving birth in the Street, you will see mother’s breastfeeding their children in the road were people, and motorist are operating which is very bad to Abia. On 25 Dec 2019 car crushed a child in front of Abia State Polytechnic (Abia poly) due to road begging and he died instantly. If these children will put those tactics of begging into one Skill or trade, they will be somebody in future. These people are no more road beggars they are business people skilled in begging, begging with disabled pictures, every day. Who are their sponsors a question that our government need to ask. My Suggestion Our Able, God fearing Governor and leaders should build a rehabilitation center, where they will be gathered, interview them, and the truth and their identity will be revealed because most of them have their own houses but still chose to beg, most of them are not beggars indeed. Our leaders should stand up and correct that bad impression given to us by outsiders on how dirty our state is. Our leaders should check if there are people (beggars) fit to be trained and be catered for i.e. beggars from Abia who are truly beggars and send packing to those that are not. Abia State is loved by God, Abia is Gods Own State, Abia is in God’s hands and we all know that our God is not a beggar… God bless you God bless the 17 local Government in Abia State God Bless Abia God bless Nigeria God bless the World Chima Godson C 07065169032 https://www.strenuousblog.com/2020/01/a-call-for-rehabitation-of-building-for.html..