HIGHLIGHT FOR A LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP. Great relationships are as a result of quiet and intentional habits. A couple that is not deliberate about their relationship success will see it disintegrate. Every relationship can experience a turn around if the partners are willing to make adjustments. However, I will be highlighting the pressure points in a relationship; 1. COMMUNICATION DIFFERENCES You should understand that both of you are different individual trying to become one, hence, you should be able to understand each other's communication skills. There are some key points a lady should know about her partner as well as the man. MEETING NEEDS You shouldn't be driven to love someone based on his or her financial buoyancy, popularity, status or culture. Although those things are important but it shouldn't be made a priority. Hence, a partner is meant to be a help mate and not a problem solver. BEING POSITIVE Relationships comes with ups and downs. Don't expect to be happy all the time. Be open to disappointments, and use them as strategies to know your partner better. GRATITUDE Research shows that gratitude helps to reduce pain and hate as you tend to focus only on the positive aspects of your Partner. Always be grateful and appreciative about the qualities of your partner. FIXED MINDSET In every true and non-intrusive relationship, you should have it mind that you have just one goal which is marriage. Hence, your plans should be related to that. GROWTH MINDSET Accept that arguments will happen and treat it with maturity and Try to resolve with respect. Note that the strongest predictor of argument is contempt. Hence, you should try and treat every issue in the most applicable manner and not to prolong arguments. BE FLEXIBLE Let your relationship grow and adapt as you both change. In summary, be aware of what is happening in your relationship, stay curious but respectful be updated about your partner and be a good listener..

Dealing with misunderstanding Relating with individuals is one of the biggest problem in humanity because there will always be misunderstanding in life which is inevitable. Misunderstanding is something that one can never avoid no matter how perfect you think you are or how good your relationship is, instead we try to ignore conflicts and arguments which later pops up and becomes accumulated grievances My personal experience with misunderstanding has mostly been involved with presumptions I have made. I have found out that when I base my opinion solely on what I am observing today without passing to consider history, or other perspectives, I am prone to get things wrong and that often creates an issue..