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4 years ago | App
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HIGHLIGHT FOR A LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP.


Great relationships are as a result of quiet and intentional habits. A couple that is not deliberate about their relationship success will see it disintegrate.


Every relationship can experience a turn around if the partners are willing to make adjustments.


However, I will be highlighting the pressure points in a relationship;


1. COMMUNICATION DIFFERENCES...
HIGHLIGHT FOR A LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP.


Great relationships are as a result of quiet and intentional habits. A couple that is not deliberate about their relationship success will see it disintegrate.


Every relationship can experience a turn around if the partners are willing to make adjustments.


However, I will be highlighting the pressure points in a relationship;


1. COMMUNICATION DIFFERENCES
You should understand that both of you are different individual trying to become one, hence, you should be able to understand each other's communication skills. There are some key points a lady should know about her partner as well as the man.


MEETING NEEDS
You shouldn't be driven to love someone based on his or her financial buoyancy, popularity, status or culture. Although those things are important but it shouldn't be made a priority. Hence, a partner is meant to be a help mate and not a problem solver.


BEING POSITIVE
Relationships comes with ups and downs. Don't expect to be happy all the time.
Be open to disappointments, and use them as strategies to know your partner better.


GRATITUDE
Research shows that gratitude helps to reduce pain and hate as you tend to focus only on the positive aspects of your Partner. Always be grateful and appreciative about the qualities of your partner.


FIXED MINDSET
In every true and non-intrusive relationship, you should have it mind that you have just one goal which is marriage. Hence, your plans should be related to that.


GROWTH MINDSET
Accept that arguments will happen and treat it with maturity and Try to resolve with respect. Note that the strongest predictor of argument is contempt. Hence, you should try and treat every issue in the most applicable manner and not to prolong arguments.


BE FLEXIBLE
Let your relationship grow and adapt as you both change.


In summary, be aware of what is happening in your relationship, stay curious but respectful be updated about your partner and be a good listener
4 years ago | App
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In the midst of negativity, I always stand positive. It's been a while here. Happy Sunday fam😘😘 In the midst of negativity, I always stand positive. It's been a while here. Happy Sunday fam😘😘
5 years ago | App
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Finally my hopeful me app decided to work
Hope i am not too late to wish my fam a happy new year 🎉 🎊
Counting down to my special day. 30th January 🎂 🎂
Finally my hopeful me app decided to work
Hope i am not too late to wish my fam a happy new year 🎉 🎊
Counting down to my special day. 30th January 🎂 🎂
5 years ago | App
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Dealing with misunderstanding


Relating with individuals is one of the biggest problem in humanity because there will always be misunderstanding in life which is inevitable.
Misunderstanding is something that one can never avoid no matter how perfect you think you are or how good your relationship is, instead we try to ignore conflicts and arguments which later pops up and...
Dealing with misunderstanding


Relating with individuals is one of the biggest problem in humanity because there will always be misunderstanding in life which is inevitable.
Misunderstanding is something that one can never avoid no matter how perfect you think you are or how good your relationship is, instead we try to ignore conflicts and arguments which later pops up and becomes accumulated grievances
My personal experience with misunderstanding has mostly been involved with presumptions I have made. I have found out that when I base my opinion solely on what I am observing today without passing to consider history, or other perspectives, I am prone to get things wrong and that often creates an issue
5 years ago | App
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RED FLAGS
Growing up as ladies,almost everyday of our lives we encounter different men who lustfully approaches us in one way or the other,some may start by telling you how beautiful you are while others may continue staring at you till they finally structure their tricks to get you.most at times,we see it as normal events that happens at a...
RED FLAGS
Growing up as ladies,almost everyday of our lives we encounter different men who lustfully approaches us in one way or the other,some may start by telling you how beautiful you are while others may continue staring at you till they finally structure their tricks to get you.most at times,we see it as normal events that happens at a particular stage we are forgetting the fact that over 80% of these men really don't cherish you .we take it as an opportunity that comes but once in a life time and dwindle into it resulting to an aftermath which becomes an unforgettable experience that brings only but pain and sorrow into our lives
Furthermore,most of our ladies think that we have an edge over these men and no matter how cunning they may seem ,you can't fall into their prey but the bitter truth is that when men a man desperately wants to get into you for his own selfish reasons ,he's going to do everything he can to achieve that purpose.they take advantage of every action you take and before you know it ,their mission would have been actualized .they may begin with deceitful declarations like;
-I really ,really like you a lot.
-This is new ,I haven't felt this way before.
-Your are my dream girl,you have all the qualties of a perfect girlfriend .
-I will never hurt you.
Ladies,we should note that there is more to attraction than just what nature does to your brain whenever it sees certain physical traits. A real man who values you will respect you ,he will always find fault in you just to correct you.he know the right things to say at the right time,he will always protect you .on a second thought ,why do you think our parents corrects us more often compared to the sweet words that say.
Its had to put in a few words or sentences but these days ,a lot of things are more about what you are not than what you are.nobody is perfect in life ,we should note that he who corrects you, values and respects you and definitely will hurt you at that moment but in the long run we will begin to see the positive side of those things .
They say prevention is better than cure, don't be too over excited when we are being praised by an individual ,instead you should pause and have a rethink if that person is doing more harm than good to you.
Note : if your relationship is too smooth and easy going...it's definitely a red flag
-If your partner never correct you instead he showers you with the sweetest word in the dictionary ...dear it's a red flag
-If a guy is being too nice and over caring to you .it's a red flag
-If your partner supports you even in your wrong doing .it's red flag.
The sweetest part of a relationship is hurting each other and reconciling.a relationship should never be smooth for comfort . we should learn and take things into consideration .always be eager to listen to your mistakes and take corrections than exciting but teasing words that won't add much value into your life's.
In summary ,pay attention to that man that corrects you more often, connect on a more intimate level ,avoid relationship pitfalls and in general ,develop a God empowered relationship
#icare
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5 years ago | App
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FAMILY TIES
We all start this life with a family, whether that family is composed of blood relatives, adopted parents or a Foster family. This family that we acquire when we are born influences every aspect of our lives, from the first moments to our last. We are under a love-regardless forum with everyone being attached as Family to you....
FAMILY TIES
We all start this life with a family, whether that family is composed of blood relatives, adopted parents or a Foster family. This family that we acquire when we are born influences every aspect of our lives, from the first moments to our last. We are under a love-regardless forum with everyone being attached as Family to you. Indirectly, we are stuck with the obligations of every individual there in.
More so, family is not just a relationship. It is one of nature's masterpiece, it is made from the heart . Hence, family isn't about blood, it is the people in your life that wants you in their and accepts you for who you are.
Being part of a family is very challenging because it comes with different responsibilities in every stage you attain. It worth more than being called a sister, brother, mother, or father. It is about making sacrifices even at your own detriment. Your family is your utmost priority no matter how distant you are from them. You should always act like a mirror, support each other dream and stand up for one another. The greatest thing in family life is to take hint when intended.
I find it overwhelming when I see individual that are attached to their friends more than thier family. The only time they remember to appreciate their family members is during memorable events. Most of the times, we don't even know how to communicate with our family members which is absurd. We should learn how to create that get together with our family irrespective of the season, and bond between you and your family, make them feel appreciated. The most beautiful thing in this world is to see your family smiling and knowing that you're a reason behind that smile.
Although family love is messy, clinging and of an annoying and repetitive pattern. We argue, we fall out and make up. We might not have it all together but together we have it all. Our life impacts should start from our family as charity begins at home. Share your strength and your fears With your family. Make your family your friend. Always make them feel happy to have you as part of them.
In all, your family may not be the best but you can be the strengther of your family ties. ™ Omah writings
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5 years ago | App
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FRIEND ZONE
Friendship is an extraordinary unique type of a feeling which is different from just love. friendship goes beyond just sharing time together and it is long lasting. It can be overwhelming making new companions, but it worth it in out well being


These days, a lot of people have the mindset of doing more for dating than keeping...
FRIEND ZONE
Friendship is an extraordinary unique type of a feeling which is different from just love. friendship goes beyond just sharing time together and it is long lasting. It can be overwhelming making new companions, but it worth it in out well being


These days, a lot of people have the mindset of doing more for dating than keeping friends. They tend to discard you if you are not in a relationship with them. You must date everyone that comes your way. it is okay to keep more of friends than sexual relationship. The true fact is that there are some kind of individual you need not to date just to get close to them. However, we feel that getting close to individuals especially your opposite sex tends to be for the sake of dating.


Friendship goes far beyond any other relationship apart from family. We tend to build a new breed in ourselves other than that of the ones we make from our family and environment.


So setting friendship is important for an overall well being. It is not so much about how many friends you have, but how valued they are. In other words, setting a hierarchy of friends helps you identify what to achieve and how to set goals in regarding friendship.
You can categorize your friends into:
[x]CLOSE FRIENDS :
Those that you cherish time with, confide in, have a positive influence on you and brings out the best in you.
[x]FAMILY FRIENDS ;
Friends from family or relationships that you enjoy spending time with but not necessarily confide in.
[x]ACQUAINTANCES ;
They may be your collegues, classmates, neighbours, or schoolmates . You like them and sometimes meet them outside the usual place of acquaintance but don't normally spend lot of quality time with them.


Using this as a starting point, helps you to balance your friend zone with people so as to learn how to manage friendship more than any other relationship.


Having all this in mind, we tend to know how much and how well we could keep both our intimate relationship and that of our friends.
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5 years ago | App
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TAKING CHARGE OVER ANGER
Anger is more than just an emotion, It actually has physiological effects that occur along side of it, ranging from sweating, to increased heartbeat and blood pressure.
It is not as simple as just being either angry or not. it is a bit more complicated than that.


However, there are varying degrees of anger. most a...
TAKING CHARGE OVER ANGER
Anger is more than just an emotion, It actually has physiological effects that occur along side of it, ranging from sweating, to increased heartbeat and blood pressure.
It is not as simple as just being either angry or not. it is a bit more complicated than that.


However, there are varying degrees of anger. most a times, it is usually some outside factor that leads you to becoming angry such as hunger, stress, depression, circumstances or thirst.
Even the happiest of people experience moments of anger from time to time.
Only when it gets out of hand or to be a problem is really something that should be worried about.


When we feel that emotion that riles us up, we also feel motivated. At first knowing how best to act is difficult, but in time the emotion of anger can drive us to create something innovative to solve a problem. The same way we innovated the idea of retaliation when angry, can be used to create something less destructive to oneself and others.


Most times, we may not know how much damage our anger has caused someone else either physically or emotionally.in other words, when we realize that we are having hard time managing anger, we might need to look more closely at how our lives are being structured.


Well, the positive fact is that anger teaches us to cope because we can easily work at ourselves and answer a few questions.


Hence, solving the underlying problem in this situation means planning and being more organized.


I could remember back then when I was still a little bit younger, I aways dash out my anger on my elder brother over the slightest issue. Funny enough, I noticed that he hardly retaliates immediately, instead he will leave me in the scene, ranting till I probably get tired. As little as he was then, he understood the fact that retaliation would be more harmful and decided to manage his anger by walking away. as time goes on, it made me understand that there was a need of mutual communication instead of yelling at the top of my voice over something that could be solved amicably. In his own way he believed that walking away at that moment was the best option to handle anger in a positive way.


More so, we can as well try to resolve different kind of situation that triggers anger in different ways.
The first criteria is acknowledging the fact that you are angry when you feel like it, instead of bottling it and later turns them into accumulated grievance. Try as much as possible to correct those that hurt you immediately in a polite manner no matter who that person is.
In most cases, anger caused by circumstances should be best treated by a counsellor or an accountability partner. in same vein, try as much as possible to pour out your heart to the person, if possible cry as much as you can to relief yourself.
In situations you can't handle at the moment walk away and try not to think about it for sometime.
In other words, the best approach is
Usually solving problems that caused anger in the first place and being assertive. It could be a little bit demanding, but will save a whole lot more #omahwriting
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5 years ago | App
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WORDS OF WISDOM
To be successful, you have to use each day as an opportunity to improve, to be better, to get a little bit closer to your goals. It might sound like a whole lot of work and- with a busy schedule. Next to impossible. But the best part is. The more you accomplish,The more you will want to...
WORDS OF WISDOM
To be successful, you have to use each day as an opportunity to improve, to be better, to get a little bit closer to your goals. It might sound like a whole lot of work and- with a busy schedule. Next to impossible. But the best part is. The more you accomplish,The more you will want to do, the higher you will want to reach. So as long as you have the hunger for success, You will always have the Power within you to achieve it.. Push your self cause nobody is going to do that for you.
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