Most hurt,pain, anger, heart break and negative emotions are always geared towards one thing.....fallen expectations. Sometimes we feel we've been wronged or not at fault in some problematic scenerios. Other times, we really don't understand how or what makes us feel that way. All we do know is that there was a certain way that person should have acted to suit you or relief you of that hurt you feel. It's expectation simplified😌 We say "expectation" a couple of times without fully understanding what we really mean. This is to help you understand better. Expectations are not really bad things as it is something every human must do in one way of the other. This is because life is filled with expectations(both realistic and unrealistic) and what makes it unusual is the fact that it doesn't always go the way we "expected" or "wanted". This doesn't mean expectations on it's own are wrong. No, it is one element that cannot be removed from human relationships(even people and God have expectations). It only gets better when you realize expectations are only to be met on balance of probabilities and the result you feel is not because of the person who did whatever he /she shouldn't have done to you but that expectation you had of them to or to not do it. Let's open our minds to this using this example; A is best friends with B and it's A's birthday tomorrow. It's only but normal for A to expect B to call and say lovely wishes. When B failed to do so, A was hurt and sad. Would you say B hurt A as to B being a person on his /her own? Many would says yes, B hurt A(it's always the general answer and that's what the normal mind would interpret it as😏) But guys,the answer is No. B didn't exactly hurt A as to B being a person on their own. It was A's "expectations" of B to call in as a "best friend" that hurt him/her. Imagine if B was just a casual friend and A had no expectations? It won't even count as offensive because nothing was expected, therefore, no need to get surprised 💁. Now, would you say it was wrong for A to have such expectations of B? Of course not! It was a right valid expectation that had a mutual and right foundation of cause. So now you understand where I'm going...😎 Most disappointments are as a result of already set up expectations. It's left for you to take the next step to understand the reason for your pain (checking for what makes it a valid expectation and how to resolve it). We'd have more video analysis as well as write-ups coming up on this topic..it's a big one!🔥 Stay tuned 😁 #niifasdiary #expectations #realitiesoflife