RECEPTION TO LOVE

I've come to realize that what we do to express love is either too little, or too much or just enough, depending on what our lover thinks about it.

Love is a two way thing. Just like communication is complete when the receiver understands the message. So is love complete when the other person acknowledges it.

We all have different perspective about Love, we have vast definitions and meanings we've given to love and also we have different love languages too. So this entirely affects our reception and approach to Love.

Your partner might be doing everything within his or her reach but because those things are not what we expect, we may not entirely appreciate it. 

For someone who is introverted and does not like partying, your partner might spend weeks and put in a huge amount of money to plan you a surprise party for you and at the end of the day you don't enjoy it and you may sincerely not value it. Of course you might appreciate it but you don't regard it as a big deal because it's not something you want.

There are things we do for love. In our mind we are doing alot but in your partners mind, we are not doing enough.

Partners who have contrasting love languages may face similar issues. 

When your love language is receiving gifts, you may not interpret anything else your partners does as love until he sends you a gift.

Guys who have physical touch as love languages will feel their partners does love them if she doesn't allow him touch her. 

The lady might buy him gifts, care for him, support him etc but because she doesn't like being touched, the guy would always feel the love she has for him isn't genuine.

Some guys may even accuse her of allowing a different guy touch her. 

(I don't encourage touching in relationships tho, touch and be touched at your own risk 🙃) 

Bringing it down to our families, there are people whom their parents do different jobs, come back late at night etc just to raise 10k pocket money for the child. 

Yet their child sees the 10k as though they parents doesn't love him or her enough. Probably because he sees his colleagues who receive 50k pocket money from their own parents.

Now the parents of this child are doing everything possible. They are going overboard to provide for the child. But this child has failed to realize this and would never feel loved by his parents. 

Same happens with our relationship with God. 

Most as Christians when we face little challenges, we begin to doubt God's love for us. We begin to question God.

We forget all the times God saw us through. We also forget the ultimate sacrifice of allowing his son die for our sins.

I really want you to see love beyond what you are gaining all the time.

Value your partners effort. 

Try and understand your different love languages and find a way to balance it.

If you are not the romantic type to be giving words of affirmations everyday, make your partner understand and find ways to be romantic with words that much you can.

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If your partner doesn't like giving gifts, encourage him to but don't disvalue every other thing he does because gifts are not the only component of proving ones love. 

Remember that's selfishness is when you only think about yourself in a relationship. Please put your partner into reasonable consideration too. 

Love will want to make you go into relationship with someone, communication and understanding will help you remain. 

I hope this helps resolve issues you may likely face in your relationship with people.

Thank you.

From JCK